Intention and Evolution
When we operate from ego, often times we set up expectations within ourselves for events to follow a narrowly defined outcome. If this outcome is not met, we label it a disaster and call ourselves a failure. Our valiant ego resolves to exert even more control in the future. One or two more "failures" and the ego may come up with seemingly excellent reasons why things went so wrong. The self-talk and procedural assessments usually go something like this: "You failed because you are no good. Your creator made you in error, and you cannot, in fact, do anything right."
Now, we know that this self-talk cannot actually be factual. There are times in the past when things have gone very well for us. If the ego analyzes these events historically and accurately, it will observe that a sequence occurred. The mind was charmed by an inspiration, a heartfelt desire. The ego stepped in to help, but for the most part stayed out of the results. Goals were set, but not allowed to dictate all activity towards the end result. We allowed ourselves some "wiggle-room," and our goal may have modified and been refined as our journey continued.
This is the natural process of our creativity, and it is, in fact, what we were designed to do. We are charmed, we move forward, we make mistakes, we adjust, we learn, we continue. At no point do we need to engage in harsh judgement or indulge in self-flagellation. We set an intention and get to work (or play) and enjoy the process.
Meditation helps us in this endeavor by reminding us that we are more than our thoughts, feelings, and judgements. We are also the silent witness, free from programming and stress, not encumbered by fear or remorse, just relaxed and paying attention.
If you seek a meditation practice, you may wish to relax your ego's requirements and stay out of the results game until nature has been given a chance to do its work for you.
There are countless great practices that adherents swear by, but in my personal experience, none were more easy to learn or had more lasting results than Vedic Meditation. I have been able to stick to this path for more than ten years.
To quote from Herbert Spencer; “There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments, and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance—that principle is contempt prior to investigation.”